Do You Have Peace of Mind in Your Family Life?

I have always wondered why a number of people suffer in their life. I am not talking about financial struggles but I am talking about people not having peace of mind in their family life. Especially, when I see constant conflicts within families, between husband and wife, parents and children, and between siblings, I am saddened. After skull-breaking ruminations about this for hours, days, and years, I have come to the conclusion that people find it difficult to lead a peaceful life because they expect others to behave and act the way they desire. But ironically, the same people are not willing or ready to change themselves according to the expectations of others. 


If you feel that you should do something for improving the environment in your family, the foremost point you should keep in mind is that you can not impose your behaviors or opinions on others including your children even if they are dependent on you. Of course, if you feel their behaviors need corrections, you can give suggestions. You can provide them with suitable advice for improving the quality of their activities. Heeding or not taking your suggestions is their prerogative. You can not do anything about it. It is when you insist that they should follow your suggestions you start losing your peace of mind. The problem with many of us is that we do not like advice or suggestions from others. Simply put, it is our ego that neither has a basis nor a logic that robs our peace of mind. 

What should you do in this context? The following tips may help.

1. Communication holds the key.

Clear communication between you and your family member will do a lot of good for having a peaceful environment in your family. You should communicate with your spouse, children, and other members of the family as often and regularly as possible. You may say that there are no important points to discuss. Nonetheless, you should keep talking to them. You can discuss even trivial matters with them. This will help in having a comfortable relationship with everyone. 

2. Involve everyone while making important decisions. 

You should involve everyone in your family including your children while making important decisions. If you think that children may not be mature enough to provide you with wise decisions or choices, you may miserably be proved wrong. In fact, you can depend upon their unalloyed, unspoiled, and unprejudiced perspective. You may get unimaginably unique ideas that will help you make the right decisions. 

3. Respect every member of your family.

This is the most important step that will certainly help you have a peaceful and happy environment in your family. Your spouse may not be as educated as you are. Your children are still young and so, they are not mature enough to fully understand some of the complex situations of life. Similarly, other members of your family may not have as much exposure as you have. Nonetheless, you should respect every one of them. Remember that every individual will have what is called natural intelligence. If you hand-hold them and guide them properly, they will learn everything quickly. Therefore, it is imperative that you show respect to all the members of your family. Apart from helping you have peace of mind, this step, if adopted sincerely, will help you in several other ways as well.

Remember that you should be a role model for your children. You should teach them by example. If you do not respect your family members or if you do not pay attention to what they speak, your kids will learn the wrong lessons. 

4. Schedule time for the family.

You may be a busy entrepreneur, you may be holding a high position in your company, or you may be one of the most sought after people in society. But you should schedule quality time for your family. If you are not able to do this, it shows that you are poor in managing your time. No one can be so busy as not to have quality time for the family. 

If you follow these steps in the right manner, you can avoid many of the family conflicts. You can have peace of mind as well.

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