Do You Want to Impress Others?

Impressing others -- This idea has always been in the minds of most people. The idea has even been pondered and attempted by those folks who proclaim from rooftops that they view the matters of life and such mundane ideas through a philosophical and saintly prism. 

In fact, almost every one of us grew up hearing the phrase "impressing others" frequently. But unfortunately, the idea and the results of your action are highly subjective. This means that if you think that you have impressed a person, his or her view of you may be completely different or perhaps, quite contradictory to what you think. That is why it is often said that there are no definite ways to impress others. Let us try to dig a little deep into this. 

The foremost thing you should bear in mind is that you need not have qualms or reservations about wanting to impress others with your knowledge, skills, and accomplishments. You are not committing any sin by attempting this. But alas, you may fail miserably and terribly in this endeavor if you do not understand a few things. Please read on to know what they are.

Where does people's interest lie?

A telephone company in New York conducted a study to find out the most frequently used word during conversations over the phone. The study revealed that in 500 conversations, the pronoun "I" was used as frequently as 3,900 times. This clearly shows that people are interested only in all those things that revolve around themselves and not in things that concern others. You should keep this in mind while conversing with people. You cannot impress others if you do not allow them to talk about themselves.

It is impossible to impress people if you do this.

You may be a good conversationalist. You may have several great ideas or information. You may be intelligent, knowledgeable, or talented. But if you interrupt people when they talk, you can never impress them. Interrupting them means you have some preconceived opinions or ideas. Interrupting when others are talking is almost akin to pre-judging them or even criticizing them. Or it may be to prove that you are more intelligent, knowledgeable, or talented than them. 

Don't fake. Try to be sincere.

Some people may fake being attentive while others speak. If you belong to this category, you should remember that you will be found out very soon. Try to be a sincere listener. If you are not interested in the topic that is being discussed, you can boldly tell the speaker that you are least interested in it. This is much better than faking attention.

Simply put, listening attentively, allowing others to blow their own trumpets, and not interrupting when others speak are a few important habits you should develop if you want to impress people.