If You Are Not Happy With Your Life, It Is You Who Is Responsible For It
Almost all of us, at some point of time, realize that reality is vastlydifferent from what we have imagined. For instance, when we begin a certain task, we think that things will happen as we expect. But many a time, things may not work as we expect. Due to this, we may experience disappointment, anger and stress.
Similarly, when you were about to finish your graduation, you might have thought that companies would queue up for offering you a job. But it might certainly not have happened. Likewise, when you have a business idea, you may think that there cannot be a better idea than that. But when you try selling that idea, you may find that there are no takers.
The point is that there is nothing wrong in imagining or dreaming but ensure to add a dose of pragmatism to your imagination so you will not be disappointed when your expectations remain just a pipe dream.
Aiming high is certainly good but aiming unachievable things can be counterproductive. On the other hand, if your expectations areachievable and if the outcome you could achieve is better than what you have expected, you will be delighted. Barry Schwartz, a psychologist who has also authored the book "The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less,", says "The secret to happiness is low expectations."
When your expectations are high and you desire for more, you will find that there are more number of options. The fact is that having more number of options is not good and it can lead to confusion, anxiety and ultimately, regret.
You can want to have everything in your life but never expect it to happen. Very importantly, never have high expectations from others because many a time, people may disappoint you. Of course, they may also say that you have disappointed them. The point that is emphasized here is that when you shun expectations, you will be able to see things as they are. Do not ever think that things should have been better because whether things are good or whether they are baddepends upon how you look at them.