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The thoughts about the problems you are facing are certainly unpleasant. They may make you sad as well. These thoughts may pertain to an argument you have had with your spouse, an offending remark by your superior at your workplace, a rejection by the person whom you love, or a disturbing news story you read in the morning newspaper. These thoughts may not impact you if they remain in your mind for a brief period. But if they continue to plague your mind for a prolonged period of time, you should certainly take steps to drive them away. Blocking thoughts from your mind is a challenging proposition because those thoughts always have the trait of rebounding and haunting you. But there is good news because it is possible to block such thoughts. Remember that by preventing these thoughts from occupying your mind and diluting your focus, you can de-clutter your mind and this will go a long way in helping you accomplish great feats. On the contrary, if you keep thinking about the issues...

When you were a kid, you learned hundreds of things and several of them are lies. Unfortunately and thanks to your naivety, you started believing all of them including those lies. You may be believing a few of those lies even now also. If you want to know real facts, you have to deactivate those beliefs. What should you do for deactivating them? You should unlearn the lies . Let us look at some of the lies you might have learned and that you must unlearn.  1. A big lie about happiness. You may have been led to believe several things. Here is a classic example. Elders and parents, though their intention is not malicious and they want to genuinely protect you, may have led you to believe that if you study well and pass your examinations in flying colors, you can come up in life and earn well. So, when you do your schooling, you study hard and score high grades. Are you happy? You think you are. After your schooling, you enroll yourself in a reputed university. But due to various extr...

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Have people become less accommodative? Statistics show that there has been a massive increase in divorce rates in the US in recent years. Even in some of the Asian countries that include India, where family values are said to be respected and cherished, there has been a significant increase in the divorce rates. This may perhaps be due to the so-called "Westernization" of societies. The reason may also be ego clashes or the so-called " incompatibility ." But why do such splits take place? Is it possible to avoid them? Can couples lead a happy and peaceful life?  The answer is "Yes. It is possible for couples to lead a happy and peaceful married life." The following tips may help. 1. Never, never try to bring about a change in your partner. You may think that you can bring about a change in the attitude of your partner. But remember your partner may also be having a similar idea. In reality, neither you nor your partner can bring about a change in the other...

I have always wondered why a number of people suffer in their life. I am not talking about financial struggles but I am talking about people not having peace of mind in their family life. Especially, when I see constant conflicts within families, between husband and wife, parents and children, and between siblings, I am saddened. After skull-breaking ruminations about this for hours, days, and years, I have come to the conclusion that people find it difficult to lead a peaceful life because they expect others to behave and act the way they desire. But ironically, the same people are not willing or ready to change themselves according to the expectations of others.  If you feel that you should do something for improving the environment in your family, the foremost point you should keep in mind is that you can not impose your behaviors or opinions on others including your children even if they are dependent on you. Of course, if you feel their behaviors need corrections, y...

You may wonder how some people always seem to be lucky whereas a few others are struggling. With their Midas touch , those lucky folks are able to turn whatever they lay hands on into gold. The question now is: Can you improve your luck? Are there ways? The answer to these questions is an emphatic "YES." Let us find out how.  1. Keep your eyes and all the sensory organs open. Though there are a number of negative-minded people who always lament that they do not have opportunities for growth , the reality is that opportunities abound. If you belong to this negative-minded group also, it is high time you realize that you are an unfortunate individual who is not able to identify opportunities. The problem is that most of the opportunities may not be clearly visible. You should be alert and at the same time, be creative as well  Only then, you will be able to spot the opportunities that come or appear in a guise that you may not have expected or imagined. If you have always b...

The other day I was reading an article on Harry Browne , a presidential candidate of the Libertarian Party in the 1996 and 2000 elections. The article provided a host of information about him and it contained his Self-Eulogy as well. I am reproducing it here.  ------------ Harry Browne wrote this and he wanted it to be read when his funeral services were held. "Setting Your Sights As I look back over my life, I can see so many ways in which I could have done things better than I did, and I certainly wish I'd learned a lot of things sooner than I did. And yet I have enjoyed a wonderful life. I'm married to the ideal woman. I have had the good fortune to be associated in business with highly competent, honest, compatible people. I've had a book that was #1 on the best-seller list, and others that sold well above average. I've had first-class friends in many different areas of my life. I've been able to live in three countries and enjoy the best the world has to o...

You may be aspiring to become wealthy, your ambition may be to grow in your career, or you may want to beat the competition in your industry and become the numero uno in the field. These mundane desires and attaining Buddha-hood can not co-exist. Therefore, it is not necessary that you should worry about reaching that saintly stage or something parallel to it that may need complete renunciation. It is enough if you focus on the task on hand , that is accumulating wealth, achieving the career growth you want, or climbing to the top position in your industry. But how to accomplish these aims? Let us find out. If you observe how a champion player proceeds with his Chess game, you will observe that he will aim to make tiny gains on the board. As the game proceeds, these tiny gains will culminate into a huge win. Similarly, you should always work for making small gains. This rule is applicable to everyone, regardless of whether they are entrepreneurs or employees, or whether they w...

It was a serendipitous experience that led me to know the great benefits of saying "no" to most of the useless demands made on me. I was going through an article on a serious topic when another content created by a successful person popped up. This content talked at length about the great benefits of saying "no" to people who make unreasonable demands. I started trying the strategy. The greatest benefit I saw was that it saved me from becoming a victim of some of the people's buffoonery. I do not know if I will succeed in continuing this habit. But my in-depth study has taught me a few things that I wish to share here.  1. By saying "yes" to everything, you will have no room for real "yes" situations. If you are in the habit of saying "yes" to everything, you will find that you do not have either time or strength to work for situations that very much require your attention. This may be perilous to your growth as an individual as we...

That money can be the most powerful motivator is an undeniable fact. While some believe that they have to work hard to make money, there are people who want to make quick bucks. There is another group of people who want to make money just out of nothing. But the question now is: Is it possible to make money out of nothing or thin air? Let us find out. The foremost step you must take for making money out of nothing or thin air is to remove certain barriers that prevent you from achieving this aim. One of the worst barriers that can eat away your time is your habit of constantly scrolling your smartphone or your computer to read the social media posts that flood your devices. According to a study, the average duration a person spends on Facebook, Whatsapp, Instagram, and other social media accounts is a whopping 46,751 hours. This means that those who are addicted to these accounts make some of the tech companies richer and richer. These tech companies always look for and adopt inn...

Can you achieve success easily? A few experts say that you have to slog for achieving success. But there are several others who firmly opine that success can be a low-hanging fruit provided you take a few vital steps. You may want to know what these steps are. Let us find out. 1. The most important keystone step that can get you easy success is that you should be physically active throughout the day. It is not necessary that you should join a gym and do rigorous workouts. Even walking for about 45 minutes daily will do immense good to your blood circulation. When your brain gets a good supply of blood, you will be able to come out with novel ideas. You may say "I am too busy to do exercises. I cannot waste my time going for a swim or a walk." It is true that your day is packed with a number of important tasks. But if you are not physically active, the neurons of your brain will not function optimally.  Even if you do not have time to go for a walk or swim, can you ...

Nowadays, there is justifiably a lot of talk about "EQ" or Emotional Intelligence . Even organizations are looking to recruit only those with high EQ. HR managers are aware that if they hire candidates with low IQ, there are chances of frequent tussles among employees. Such employees may pose a problem to their bosses as well. Ultimately, there will be a severe impact on the productivity of companies.  Even in our day-to-day life, EQ plays a major role in maintaining relationships. Let us now find out how you must make efforts to improve your emotional intelligence so that you can lead a peaceful life and can also be a good employee in your organization. 1. Get conscious about how you react to situations The foremost step to improve your emotional intelligence is to be aware of how you feel or how you react to situations. This is not easy because in life or in your career, you encounter various types of situations. Some situations may make you feel happy, a few o...

If you have an entrepreneurial mindset and if you intend to start a venture, you may have this question in your mind. The question is - How long will it take for my start-up to make profits? Let us find out. But before that, let us see if a start-up can make a profit or if it may also end up as a failure as several other start-ups do. When you launch a company, you may do so only after you conceive an idea. But is an idea enough for making profits in your new venture? The answer is obviously in the negative. Unless your idea is saleable, it is impossible to make money out of it. Of course, if your idea is saleable and if you break even, there may not be any look-backs. By now, you may have become aware of the ways to grow your company and increase your revenues.  But the real question is when a start-up can make profits . According to a few experts, every industry or field is different and every company operating in an industry is unique as well. So, it may not be ...

You may have goals in your life and may want to achieve them. But like most of the people, you may also think that you have to toil like whales to achieve them. But here is a piece of good news for you. There is a simple strategy that will help you accelerate your journey towards your goals. You need not worry if the simple strategy that is going to be suggested will embarrass you or will hurt you because this easy strategy will neither embarrass you nor hurt you. On the contrary, it will hasten the process of getting you the results.  In fact, this strategy is being used by experts in almost all fields. It has an immeasurable power that can heal ill-feelings, disarm the opponents, and captivate people. This tool will move you towards others including strangers and not far from others. It will help you navigate the differences or grudges you may have with others. The only problem you may face is this strategy can become an addiction. But you need not worry because it ...