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According to almost everyone, a comfortable life is one in which they have lots of money. The thought of leading such a comfortable life will make your neurons dance delightfully with a euphoric feeling. Let us for argument's sake assume that this is true. Who does not wish to lead such a comfortable life? But in the present circumstances, fulfilling this wish is not easy for everyone. This is not because there is a dearth of methods to earn good money but because some issue or another may rob people of peace of mind. So, the hot-button question now is: How can one fulfill his or her wish of leading a comfortable life? So, here are a few thoughts about this. There are two powerful methods to get hold of lots of money . But ironically, they consist of contrasting ingredients. Let us delve a little deeper. 1. This tip may sound philosophical to some people. But it is only partially so though there is always a raging debate about it. This tip mainly focuses on sustainabilit...

That most of us are allowing others to control our life is a painful truth. You have to first acknowledge this in order to bring back the control in your hands . Why are others keen to control your life? Perhaps, they want to get some advantage out of it or they want to pull you down so that they can surpass, outfox or outsmart you. In this context,  should you continue to allow them to control your life?  The result will be disastrous for your personal growth. You cannot pursue your passion, not to talk of focusing on achieving your life goals, career growth,  or success in your business endeavors. So, you should take all possible steps for taking back control of your life. Once you succeed in your efforts, you can see a massive improvement in your life. Let us find out how you can get out of this damned rut of being controlled by others.  The fact is that it is your consciousness about your social image that forces you to succumb to the pressure of...

Why do you face criticism? Do you think that others are right in criticizing you churlishly? What should you do for handling criticisms? Let us find out. Experts point out that if you are constantly being criticized by a few folks, it shows that these folks are nervous either about your competence, knowledge, or intelligence or about your good looks. By criticizing you, they try to find a level-playing field. Of course, there may be a few others who are genuinely concerned about your wellbeing. They may criticize you with an aim to bring about transformations or improvements in you. This means there may be some merit in their criticism.  There can be yet another group of people who always wish to show that they are always in charge of things. They want to prove their superiority by criticizing you. A few others may feel insecure when you are around. They may criticize you because they aim to advance their positions or receive better favors from others than what you get. ...

Do you have a scarcity or "have-not" mentality? If so, you may not be ready to believe that you can earn large amounts of money . Similarly, if you are in the habit of worrying about everything, you will never believe that there are people who are always happy regardless of the difficult situations they face in their lives.  What does this mean? This means that you are focusing on the wrong things. In the first instance, you are choosing scarcity instead of abundance. In the latter case, your focus is on difficulties and not on solutions. So, what is the remedy for this? It is by changing your mindset and focusing on the right things, you can have abundant wealth, enjoy great health, be happy always, and so on. Never forget the fact that what you focus on keeps expanding. But what are the ways to change your mindset? Hang around only those folks who are positive-minded. You should make it a point to hang around positive-minded people only. You may say that this is not possibl...

Not many people are comfortable with keeping mum and not speaking anything. But certain occasions demand it. Let us find out what those occasions are. Keep mum when you get angry or are anxious. Anger is an emotion that can rob the peace of mind of people. In fact, there are several families and people who have lost their career or development opportunities and even their lives thanks to the negative impact of this emotion. Even if you get angry with your enemies or those who have harmed you, it is not they who will be affected. It is you and your health that will be negatively impacted.  The most important point you should remember is that things may not always go your way. When such situations arise, the first emotion you will have is "fear." But why at all do you fear? It is because of insecure feelings you will start fearing. There may be several reasons for such insecure feelings. Jealousy, constant thinking about the future, and "comparison syndrome" are maj...

When you were a kid, you learned hundreds of things and several of them are lies. Unfortunately and thanks to your naivety, you started believing all of them including those lies. You may be believing a few of those lies even now also. If you want to know real facts, you have to deactivate those beliefs. What should you do for deactivating them? You should unlearn the lies . Let us look at some of the lies you might have learned and that you must unlearn.  1. A big lie about happiness. You may have been led to believe several things. Here is a classic example. Elders and parents, though their intention is not malicious and they want to genuinely protect you, may have led you to believe that if you study well and pass your examinations in flying colors, you can come up in life and earn well. So, when you do your schooling, you study hard and score high grades. Are you happy? You think you are. After your schooling, you enroll yourself in a reputed university. But due to various extr...

The other day I was reading an article on Harry Browne , a presidential candidate of the Libertarian Party in the 1996 and 2000 elections. The article provided a host of information about him and it contained his Self-Eulogy as well. I am reproducing it here.  ------------ Harry Browne wrote this and he wanted it to be read when his funeral services were held. "Setting Your Sights As I look back over my life, I can see so many ways in which I could have done things better than I did, and I certainly wish I'd learned a lot of things sooner than I did. And yet I have enjoyed a wonderful life. I'm married to the ideal woman. I have had the good fortune to be associated in business with highly competent, honest, compatible people. I've had a book that was #1 on the best-seller list, and others that sold well above average. I've had first-class friends in many different areas of my life. I've been able to live in three countries and enjoy the best the world has to o...

It was a serendipitous experience that led me to know the great benefits of saying "no" to most of the useless demands made on me. I was going through an article on a serious topic when another content created by a successful person popped up. This content talked at length about the great benefits of saying "no" to people who make unreasonable demands. I started trying the strategy. The greatest benefit I saw was that it saved me from becoming a victim of some of the people's buffoonery. I do not know if I will succeed in continuing this habit. But my in-depth study has taught me a few things that I wish to share here.  1. By saying "yes" to everything, you will have no room for real "yes" situations. If you are in the habit of saying "yes" to everything, you will find that you do not have either time or strength to work for situations that very much require your attention. This may be perilous to your growth as an individual as we...

Almost all of us, at some point of time, realize that reality is vastlydifferent from what we have imagined . For instance, when we begin a certain task, we think that things will happen as we expect. But many a time, things may not work as we expect. Due to this, we may experience disappointment, anger and stress. Similarly, when you were about to finish your graduation, you might have thought that companies would queue up for offering you a job. But it might certainly not have happened. Likewise, when you have a business idea, you may think that there cannot be a better idea than that. But when you try selling that idea, you may find that there are no takers.  The point is that there is nothing wrong in imagining or dreaming but ensure to add a dose of pragmatism to your imagination so you will not be disappointed when your expectations remain just a pipe dream.  Aiming high is certainly good but aiming unachievable things can be counterproductive. On the ot...

According to personal development gurus, among the factors that inhibit personal transformation , there are two that can inflict severe damage to our efforts. They are judgment and negativity.  Negativity If you have negative thoughts, you are likely to focus more on your physical pleasures. Therefore, your behavior may also be such that it will destroy or damage your body. In short, the negative thoughts you nurture will inhibit your personal transformation. Experts compare these negative thoughts to the bad cholesterol that accumulates and clogs the human artery. In other words, negative thoughts will hinder your journey towards attainment of high and bountiful happiness . Judgment If you are in the habit of judging others, it will also hinder your personal development. In the words of experts, "when you judge another person, you do not define him or her, you define yourself." This means you are revealing more about yourself than about the person whom you a...