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Life is a cocktail of problems and happy situations. But though no one wants problems, everyone seems to have them. This is very much true and as real as the feeling of the earth you walk on. We all wrongly assume that rich people remain untethered to problems. But even if a person has amassed wealth and is lounging on such a comfortable cushion of money, you cannot assume that he or she has no problems. The person will certainly have issues that are typical of such rich people. From this, it is pretty evident that some people face incredibly acute problems, and the problems of a few others may not be that serious.  Regardless of whether they are serious or not when the solutions to the problems appear to be ever elusive, they strangle our peace of mind. Before we realize that the wolf is waiting at our door, our enthusiasm may start plummetting. Never forget the dense connection between whatever happens in our life and our attitude. So, the question is how you should tackle the...

Who does not want to lead a smooth life ? But when it comes to the question of adopting the right strategies for achieving this aim, no one seems to be willing. Or at least, not everyone is ready to embrace all the necessary steps. This means they may follow a few steps and leave the rest. The problem is that if you do not adopt all of them, you cannot avoid leading a stormy life. Though these steps vary according to circumstances, there is one indisputable step that may help you in achieving your aim of leading a smooth life. This step is called "Accountability." Of course, the topic of "Accountability" may not be "sexy" to discuss because no one likes to be accountable to others. But unfortunately, every one of us has to be accountable to someone or a few others in our lives. When you are young and studying, you are accountable to your parents, teachers, and all those who help you in your studies. Similarly, once you get married and have a family of your...

"Nobody has a perfect life. Everybody has their own problems" is one of the oft-repeated quotes. But some people seem to know how to solve their problems more easily. You may wonder how they possess this ability while you keep on struggling to come out of the tough situations you are mired in. Experts on personal development suggest that you should ask a few basic questions to change your approach to handling such situations.   1.  What is the situation?   2.  I do not like the situation. I am ill at ease and feeling suffocated. So, what is the preferred situation that can lift me to a "tensionless state," as Victor Frankl puts it in his "Man's Search for Meaning." ?   3.  How can I create the preferred situation?   4.  How can I know that I have succeeded in creating the preferred situation? Unfortunately, there is a caveat. The answers to questions 3 and 4 are very difficult to get, though it is comparatively easier to get th...

The thoughts about the problems you are facing are certainly unpleasant. They may make you sad as well. These thoughts may pertain to an argument you have had with your spouse, an offending remark by your superior at your workplace, a rejection by the person whom you love, or a disturbing news story you read in the morning newspaper. These thoughts may not impact you if they remain in your mind for a brief period. But if they continue to plague your mind for a prolonged period of time, you should certainly take steps to drive them away. Blocking thoughts from your mind is a challenging proposition because those thoughts always have the trait of rebounding and haunting you. But there is good news because it is possible to block such thoughts. Remember that by preventing these thoughts from occupying your mind and diluting your focus, you can de-clutter your mind and this will go a long way in helping you accomplish great feats. On the contrary, if you keep thinking about the issues...

According to experts who have studied successful people, a number of factors contribute to their success . The main factors these experts list out are the attitude of these folks, their people skills, their ability and readiness to lead from the front, their eagerness to listen, and above all, their willingness to take responsibility for their actions and decisions. But recent studies have revealed that there is a very important attribute that is commonly found in almost all the successful people. The attribute is that successful people manage their emotions very well and they do not wilt under pressure, They remain calm in any situation, says Travis Bradberry in one of his posts on LinkedIn. Travis Bradberry is the president of TalentSmart and he has coauthored a book entitled "Emotional Intelligence 2.0." Bradberry has followed up with another post recently and in this new post, he explains that how you manage your emotions involves what you refrain from doing as ...